There is much philosophy that has been spoken and written about facing our fears. Many have expounded on the growth that comes, the enlightenment, the strength.
Fear is an interesting sensation. I am sure it evolved out of some self protective instinct. It is intriguing to think that only by overcoming our sense of self preservation can we expand our ultimate capacity. This past weekend I had a chance to see the concept play out in person.
I took my two pre-teen daughters down to Moab, UT to do some hiking and mountain biking. At our house, we worship the beauty of the red rocks, the panoramic cliffs, the cool desert evenings.
After hiking several miles out to see a more remote arch in the national park, my two daughters decided to make a twenty foot free climb to get up inside the hollow of the arch. Once they started up the narrow crevice of their route, I saw the fear set in. They suddenly realized what they had gotten themselves into.
I also experienced fear sharply for them. I not only feared them coming to harm, but I also had a selfish fear of what I would hear from my wife if she knew I was allowing them to make the climb.
I realized afterwards that I was also experiencing an allegory of small business development. I often have clients that want to do things which they fear. Starting a new business or launching a new product is scary on several levels.
Many fear different aspects of business development. They may fear talking to people, being rejected, making hard choices, or even doing accounting and taxes.
Each one of these elements is like a handhold or foothold that takes one further off the safe ground and higher up the crevice. As each element is overcome, the climb gets harder and the fear of dropping increases.
Most of us fear failure above all. The fear of starting a business and not succeeding can be crippling.
One of my daughters came to a place on the climb that she panicked and stopped altogether. Her fear took over and she couldn't go up or down.
Many in small business also come to this familiar stopping ground. The risks of getting a small business successfully up and running are high.
And, just as my daughter suddenly realized what would happen if she fell fifteen feet onto rocks, many entrepreneurs may not realize just how much they have risked until they are en route without another handhold.
This is where the value of concerned coaches comes in. With me urging my daughter from below, and my other daughter helping from above, we were able to help her overcome her paralysis. With great courage, she found the unseen handhold she needed and scrambled onto the ledge above.
With a person below who could see the route, and one above who had already been there, my daughter had two perspectives to assist her and guide her to success.
In business, we call these roles a "coach" and a "mentor." The coach sees the path, the mentor has climbed it.
Upon reaching the final ledge, my daughter's elation was immediate. She was rewarded with a new perspective, a new achievement, and new self confidence. The same rewards can come with success in business.
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